Mother’s Day Special

Mother’s Day Special

Hello friends! This is a special blog post specifically for my Mommy readers. Fellas, please do not shy away from reading this post because my hope is that you too could take something away from this message. It is an honor and privilege to be a parent, particularly a mother. Thanks for being here. Let’s dive in!

First off, huge shout out to all Mothers…first time mothers, seasoned mothers, single mothers, married mothers, widowed mothers, divorced mothers, mothers of special needs children, mothers of adopted children, surrogate mothers, spiritual mothers, working mothers, and stay-at-home mothers, and to grandmothers and god-mothers for taking on the responsibility of a mother. No matter which category you fall in (maybe I failed to list it above), know that you’re a special type of being and that YOU was chosen, by God, to raise the little one or little ones in your care. It’s not a mistake. It’s not a coincidence. You are just right for tending to your assigned seed.

Stop doubting your abilities to be a great mother. Stop beating yourself up for what you didn’t get done during the day or even throughout the week. What I’ve learned is that pacing yourself and having patience with yourself is key. Yes, we all want to be Super Mom, but that isn’t determined by how many things you cross off your “To-Do List”. Sometimes our “To-Do List” seems like a mile long and when we’ve only gotten two or three things done, we feel like we’ve failed. But, that is not true. Perhaps prioritize the things you really want to get done for that day and work your way down the line. You will find yourself feeling more fulfilled at the end of the day. By the end of the week, you will see that you’ve tackled each task like the true champ you are.

When I was a first time mom, I received so much help from family and friends. Despite the outpour of love and support they were giving me, I felt bad. Yup, horrible! I felt like the things my family and friends were helping me with, I should have been doing on my own. One of my cousins came all the way from New Jersey to visit and she absolutely blew my mind because she actually took her time to wash the dishes for me, showed me how to properly store my breastmilk, and even came along with me to my son’s doctor’s visit. On another day, some other close cousins stopped by to prepare a meal. I can even remember a church member offering to help carry my son’s carseat to the car while I carry the diaper bag. My church member simply wanted to help lighten the load and I would reply with a smile, “I have it.” Not taking no for an answer, my church member insisted on helping me carry everything to my car mostly every Sunday. The help was much needed and I was very appreciative, but “the Mommy in me” wanted to get things done myself. I was all wrong. Accept help.

Whether you’re a first time mom or a seasoned mom, be patient with yourself. Our stories are different, circumstances may vary, but one thing’s for sure, you will need a portion of patience, sometimes, if not all the time, a double portion. It seems it took me every bit of five years of trying to find a rhythm that works for me as a mother. Now I have my second child and I’m learning to find a whole new rhythm. Some days I’m off beat, some days I try to stay on beat, and other days I’m dancing to the beat. No matter where you are or what you’re doing, remember to stop for a moment to breath. Inhale and exhale.

Your child or children need you and you are equipped to handle any and every situation. God made us that way. You don’t have to try to be Super Mom, you already are. God has given us special powers to endure, to sacrifice, and to nurture. I believe when we really take the time to recognize and understand who we are and Whose we are, then will we be able to relax a bit. Yes, every loving mother or parent period for that matter, will always be concerned about the well-being of their child/children. But, there is a place of peace when you “train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it” (Proverbs 22:6, KJV).

I would like to leave you with this…simply do your best and Jesus will take care of the rest! 🙂 God called you to be a mother for a reason. There is no manual to parenthood, but rest assured, you are not alone. I’m not just saying this. As I encourage you, I encourage myself. I will share with you one of my favorite scriptures and I pray that you find hope and strength in it just as much as I have: Isaiah 41:10 states:

‘Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you, Yes, I will help you, I will uphold you with My righteous right hand.’

Again, this has been a special Mother’s Day post. I know it’s one day shy of a week since we celebrated Mother’s Day but don’t judge me. Lol! Maybe you had a trying week or haven’t been told you’re special or simply needed a quick reminder, this post is for you.

For more inspiration, please visit “Limitless Creations w/ Kimberly”. Kimberly is one of my besties, my sister in Christ. In the wake of Mother’s Day, she gave me, along with several other moms, the task of responding to the prompt, “What does being a mom mean to me?” The video is now available on her YouTube channel above or simply click the following link:

Please check out all of the feautured moms responses. (Yours truly shares also)! Thanks for reading all the way to the end.

Feel free to leave a comment below sharing your mommy experience. Someone needs to hear from you. 🙂  

Much love!

“We Shall Overcome: Then and Now”

“We Shall Overcome: Then and Now”

Hey ya’ll! Today’s blog title is a familiar one but, befitting for such a time as this. I’m sorry for sounding preachy, but I couldn’t think of a better way to phrase it. Thanks for understanding! 🙂

So, let me begin with a little background history about the title, “We Shall Overcome”. I don’t want to insult anyone’s intelligence whatsoever, but this is NOT my original title so I must give credit to where credit is due. “We Shall Overcome” is a revered protest song, originated by folk singer, Pete Seeger, that has undoutbtedly resonated not only within the African American community, but throughout the entire world (McCollum, Sean). The beloved song was referenced in Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.’s “Last Sunday Sermon” in March of 1968 and have been sung on countless occassions as an anthem to freedom movements (McCollum, Sean). Some words that come to mind when I hear the words “We Shall Overcome” are strength, boldness, and comfort. The lyrics of the song are simple yet powerful as it is the ultimate declaration to prevail against struggle. 

I like the term “We” in the title because it includes EVERYONE. Get this, no one is excluded (this is going to be key as you read on). The term “will” in the title is important because it is being used to make a promise. This is good news because no one is excluded from the promise. How many of you know that God’s promise is for ALL of us, IF we believe?

We shall overcome!

Overcome, what? Sadly enough, we are still in a struggle. In case you’re wondering what kind of struggle(s), just turn on your T.V or read the headlines of your local newspaper. Listen in on your local radio station conversations or take a look at your social media newsfeed. Today, I read while strolling down my Instagram feed, another innocent, young, black male, Ahmaud Arbery, “MURDERED”.

You’ll see that the world is undergoing all kinds of turmoil and destruction. There’s senseless shootings, killings, and kidnappings. On the otherhand, there’s sickness and disease…the most recent COVID-19 that has claimed the lives of so many. It is disheartening to watch the news nowadays because it’s seemingly filled with more negatives than positives.

If I can be honest, some of us don’t have to turn on the news to know that “the struggle is real.” Some of us are experiencing firsthand unemployment, sickness, broken homes, financial instability, excuse my wording but downright hell.

John 10:10 says, “The thief does not come except to steal, and to kill, and to destroy.” This includes our youth, our sons and daughters, sisters and brothers, neighbors and friends, pastors, teachers, and official leaders. Again, no one is excluded. But NEVER fear!

The Bible says, “Many are the afflictions [pain, distress, grief, misery] of the righteous, but the Lord delivers him out of them all” (Psalm 34:19, NKJ). Notice that the text does not say that the Lord delivers him out of “some” or a “few” of them, but ALL.

No matter what your struggle or affliction may be, be it racial oppression, depression, lack of income, addiction, grief of the lost of a loved one, suicidal thoughts, loneliness, anxiety or whatever, remember that when you have a relationship with God, He has the power to deliver you and change your situation.

David said, “I sought the Lord, and He heard me, and delivered me from all my fears…This poor man cried out, and the Lord heard him, and saved him out of all his troubles…” (Psalm 34:4-6, NKJV).

When you have a relationship with God, you don’t have to worry or be anxious about anything (Phillipians 4:6). We have assurance from Him. The Lord spoke in Psalm 91:14-16 saying, “Because he has set his love upon me, therefore I will deliver him; I will set him on high because he has known my name; He shall call upon me and I will answer him; I will be with him in trouble; I will deliver him and honor him. With long life I will satisfy him and show him My salvation” (NKJV). Catch this ya’ll, there goes “I will”. There’s our promise!

I am so glad that God is not a man that He should lie. In fact, our Heavenly Father says, “Heaven and earth will pass away, but My words will by no means pass away” (Matt. 24:35, NKJV).

Our God is too mighty for us to believe that we are doomed, our situation is dead, and that there is no hope. God is too great for us to live timid, ashamed, and/or broken-hearted. I believe it was Paul who asked the question, “Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? Shall tribulation, or distress, or persecution, or famine, or nakedness, or peril, or sword? As it it written: For thy sake we are killed all day long; we are accounted as sheep for the slaughter. Yet in all these things we are more than conquerors through Him who loved us” (Romans 8:35-37, NKJV).

I highlight, “We are more than conquerors through Him who loved us.” “Conqueror” is key! In order to conquer something, you must….OVERCOME.

If you haven’t done so already, declare it with me, as the lyricist eloquently, yet courageously wrote, “We Shall Overcome!” It’s a promise! It was then and it is now.

Smile loves this has been yet another heart to heart, I love you!


Work Cited

McCollum, Sean. “We Shall Overcome: The story behind the Song.” The Kennedy 17 Sept. 2019. Web. 8 May 2020.


Dreams Do Come True!

Dreams Do Come True!

Hey ya’ll! As I’m writing, I still can’t believe I’m writing my first blog post. This really is a dream come true and I’m so excited that you’re here to share it with me. Please, please, please drop in from time-to-time for some “Heart to Heart” inspiration. Lets get to it, shall we?

For those of you who follow me on Facebook, Instagram, and even LinkedIn, you know that I am a fan of Marianne Williamson, an American author, most commonly known for her poem, “Our Deepest Fear”. If you are not familiar with the poem, I do highly recommend reading it. This poem is special to me because a close friend of mine shared it with me during the time I had been running for Miss Allen University. At the time I was running for the title, I wasn’t sure if I would actually become the reigning queen.

My opponent was a beautiful young lady. She was a member of Delta Sigma Theta Incorporated (shout out to my Delta readers) and in my mind that meant she automatically had more connections than I did. I mean, I just knew that she would have more people backing her up. I was sure that she was more familiar with campaigning and would have no problem gaining the votes of our student body. In spite of believing that God told me to run for the position, I didn’t feel like the most qualified candidate. I seriously doubted.

One night during the campaign week, I crumbled under the pressure of getting things together for my campaign and juggling my classwork load. My ideas had ran low for winning over the student body’s votes and the few ideas I did have didn’t really seem all that elaborate. On top of that, my money was looking funny, so I couldn’t quite invest in the campaign like I thought I needed too. Time was winding down.

The night I had my meltdown, God had already worked things out. My friends assured me that everything would be fine. They asked, “How can we help? What do you need us to do?” So in their spare time, they would campaign for me while I was in class. One of my friends reached out to the former Mr. Allen and asked for his helping hands. He was very well-known around campus, but he knew little about me. In fact, I had spoken to him prior to the night I wanted to give up and he had already told my opponent that he’d work with her. For whatever miraculous reason, he had a change of heart and joined my campaign group. God used someone I had little to no connection with to be a part of my team. It’s amazing how God will send the right people at the right to time to work on your behalf.

In the midst of all the campaigning and preparing for voting day, I remember thinking, “God, I know its You.” When He has His hand on You, it is undeniable. When He gives you an assignment, know that He has already equipped you to complete it. He knows our strengths and our weaknesses and He is faithful to give us the help we need, exactly when we need it.

Things may not look like its going to work in your favor. The odds may seem stacked against you on our job,  at your school, in your home, in your relationship, in your marriage, in your health and finances. It may look like you’re going to be defeated, but remember with God on your side, you will WIN.

What God has for you, it is for YOU! Maybe you’re like me and you’ve doubted a time or two…or three or four. Maybe you haven’t met all the qualifications or simply don’t feel qualified at all. Maybe you’re not the most popular or don’t have the best idea all the time. Listen, the devil is a liar.

Do not fear failure.

Do not fear competition.

Do not fear intimidation. 

You are victorious. I won Miss Allen University, not because I was so great or any good deeds I had done. It’s about God’s plan and purpose. Guess what, the young lady that I ran against that year became Miss Allen University the following year. God can and will use any one of us IF we are willing to be a vessel, be a mouthpiece, be a witness to His people.

Will you be a vessel? Will you speak for Him? Tell somebody about His goodness!

I’ve enjoyed our heart to heart. Because this is a “heart to heart” feel free to comment below. I love you and until next time,

God bless! 🙂

  1. I feel refreshed and inspired after reading this! Thank you so much 👏🏼

  2. This post is so relatable!! Being a first time mom and a single mom at that, I’m learning to pace…