Hello friends! This is a special blog post specifically for my Mommy readers. Fellas, please do not shy away from reading this post because my hope is that you too could take something away from this message. It is an honor and privilege to be a parent, particularly a mother. Thanks for being here. Let’s dive in!
First off, huge shout out to all Mothers…first time mothers, seasoned mothers, single mothers, married mothers, widowed mothers, divorced mothers, mothers of special needs children, mothers of adopted children, surrogate mothers, spiritual mothers, working mothers, and stay-at-home mothers, and to grandmothers and god-mothers for taking on the responsibility of a mother. No matter which category you fall in (maybe I failed to list it above), know that you’re a special type of being and that YOU was chosen, by God, to raise the little one or little ones in your care. It’s not a mistake. It’s not a coincidence. You are just right for tending to your assigned seed.
Stop doubting your abilities to be a great mother. Stop beating yourself up for what you didn’t get done during the day or even throughout the week. What I’ve learned is that pacing yourself and having patience with yourself is key. Yes, we all want to be Super Mom, but that isn’t determined by how many things you cross off your “To-Do List”. Sometimes our “To-Do List” seems like a mile long and when we’ve only gotten two or three things done, we feel like we’ve failed. But, that is not true. Perhaps prioritize the things you really want to get done for that day and work your way down the line. You will find yourself feeling more fulfilled at the end of the day. By the end of the week, you will see that you’ve tackled each task like the true champ you are.
When I was a first time mom, I received so much help from family and friends. Despite the outpour of love and support they were giving me, I felt bad. Yup, horrible! I felt like the things my family and friends were helping me with, I should have been doing on my own. One of my cousins came all the way from New Jersey to visit and she absolutely blew my mind because she actually took her time to wash the dishes for me, showed me how to properly store my breastmilk, and even came along with me to my son’s doctor’s visit. On another day, some other close cousins stopped by to prepare a meal. I can even remember a church member offering to help carry my son’s carseat to the car while I carry the diaper bag. My church member simply wanted to help lighten the load and I would reply with a smile, “I have it.” Not taking no for an answer, my church member insisted on helping me carry everything to my car mostly every Sunday. The help was much needed and I was very appreciative, but “the Mommy in me” wanted to get things done myself. I was all wrong. Accept help.
Whether you’re a first time mom or a seasoned mom, be patient with yourself. Our stories are different, circumstances may vary, but one thing’s for sure, you will need a portion of patience, sometimes, if not all the time, a double portion. It seems it took me every bit of five years of trying to find a rhythm that works for me as a mother. Now I have my second child and I’m learning to find a whole new rhythm. Some days I’m off beat, some days I try to stay on beat, and other days I’m dancing to the beat. No matter where you are or what you’re doing, remember to stop for a moment to breath. Inhale and exhale.
Your child or children need you and you are equipped to handle any and every situation. God made us that way. You don’t have to try to be Super Mom, you already are. God has given us special powers to endure, to sacrifice, and to nurture. I believe when we really take the time to recognize and understand who we are and Whose we are, then will we be able to relax a bit. Yes, every loving mother or parent period for that matter, will always be concerned about the well-being of their child/children. But, there is a place of peace when you “train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it” (Proverbs 22:6, KJV).
I would like to leave you with this…simply do your best and Jesus will take care of the rest! 🙂 God called you to be a mother for a reason. There is no manual to parenthood, but rest assured, you are not alone. I’m not just saying this. As I encourage you, I encourage myself. I will share with you one of my favorite scriptures and I pray that you find hope and strength in it just as much as I have: Isaiah 41:10 states:
‘Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you, Yes, I will help you, I will uphold you with My righteous right hand.’
Again, this has been a special Mother’s Day post. I know it’s one day shy of a week since we celebrated Mother’s Day but don’t judge me. Lol! Maybe you had a trying week or haven’t been told you’re special or simply needed a quick reminder, this post is for you.
For more inspiration, please visit “Limitless Creations w/ Kimberly”. Kimberly is one of my besties, my sister in Christ. In the wake of Mother’s Day, she gave me, along with several other moms, the task of responding to the prompt, “What does being a mom mean to me?” The video is now available on her YouTube channel above or simply click the following link: https://youtu.be/cUQ3PVcJB34.
Please check out all of the feautured moms responses. (Yours truly shares also)! Thanks for reading all the way to the end.
Feel free to leave a comment below sharing your mommy experience. Someone needs to hear from you. 🙂